Extroversion: what separates the men from the boys, the ones who get the job VS. the ones who don’t, and ultimately the reason why I decided to read this book. (It must be summer because I’m reading faster than you can say G.T.L.)
Ever since I can remember, I’ve always been struggling for others to “hear” what I have to say in this fast-paced, ricocheting world. Being dubbed as “the quiet one” or going all through high school and barely more than 5 people matching your name to your face begins to take a toll. It never used to bother me until I looked back on it and realized I missed out. ON A LOT.
Anyway, the intention of this post isn’t to create a silent pity party where I feel as though I’m back in high school again where teachers would so ostentatiously spew the proverbial, “are you okay?”, upon noticing my class participation grade was considerably lower than my writing grade. (Totally hated that.)
I’m not the only one who is
victim to being introverted. 1/3 to 1/2 of America actually is. Shocked? That’s probably because we are never heard in a world full of loudmouths.
Having an introverted personality is explained as being quite favorable as opposed to weakness or social ineptitude. (in the current book I’m reading) This is one of the reasons we have Windows for PC’s! (FYI– good ole Bill Gates falls under the non-talker types!)
We are overstimulated in this overly saturated world with constant images of likeability. From celebs to the workplace, it appears as though the more “on display” you are, the greater number of likes you’ll receive on your facebook page or even in real life.
Okay, let’s get past the ice breaking and into the book!
Susan Cain is the author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. Self-proclaimed introvert herself, Susan has written hundreds of articles on the oftentimes overlooked subject in addition to doing a ton of media appearances. Personally, I feel I have been waiting for an answer all my life as to the reason why I am the way I am and how I can go about dealing with it. She literally answers that in the preface. It’s not that I’m insecure with who I am, it’s the constant inner self questioning of “how are others viewing me?” that agitates me.
I think it’s also important to note this book isn’t just for the introvert. Extroverts can read as well. It’s always great to get to know the “opposite side of the coin” and now is your chance. I am only on the first chapter, but already hooked!
Susan states that many introverts are actually the fuel to the fire behind extroverts. They are the idea makers, writers, and creators. Extroverts are the final administrators to relay these points to the public due to their captivating charms and ability to never bore. She also states that there are many different types of introverts and you can even be considered both. (If I recall it was something called an “ambivert.”)
This is one of the reasons I’ve always chosen behind the scenes tasks. I never liked attention but am slowly beginning to open that chapter in my life. I think it’s healthy to gloat in your own accomplishments and I’m gradually trying to learn to tune in to the inner voice instead of the outer ones. (who usually don’t matter) I suppose this is why I turned to the world of blogging. I feel I can express myself 1000 times the world over in this medium. Put me in a bar setting and the only thing you’ll see me doing is nursing my drink. Okay, and maybe busting a move or two. (Random fact: I LOVE TO DANCE.)
So I now turn the question towards you…are you an introvert or extrovert? A pleasant combo of both? Any interest in reading the book?
Peace, love, and introvert power!